No doubt that most of us have those almost love story, almost there but didn’t happen. He may not be an ex-boyfriend, just an ex-something, or just someone you met in graduate party or some events in the past that remarkably blemished your heart.
People keep telling us to move on only if that boy/girl became our ex…friend, as if adoring someone and moving on should be confined to a relationship. We could fall in love with a person regardless if she or he is a boyfriend or not! Truth be told, it’s hard to leave a person who was never yours.
We only say we leaving only because there is no better path that we could follow.If there is a better expression for a girl who likes to forget an almost love, then perhaps girls like us would never use moving on so as people will stop been on our ear and telling us it is not good specifically if you were never together with the person.
We go through every process like every broken hearted girl does because if you were never fall in love or even in a relationship, you have experienced and practiced how it was to get your hopes up, fall in love with someone and feel somewhat loved only to be left hanging.
It is good to feel sad and broken for a while due to jealousness because when you love, you always want to make the other person to be yours and do the things you like most, that is why you are allowed to feel the pain.
When the other person said goodbye or just left without saying a single word, we also felt those long nights of thinking in other person. It doesn’t have to be a relationship for a girl to get broken and feel lost.
It is more hurting for an almost love because you build your trust and open your heart to someone who means a lot to you, someone you want to be with in ups and downs . It hurts more when you see that person doing the exact thing you desire to another and having his own relationship you have dreamt of from the beginning of the love journey.
We all have those “that should be” moment, if only the song could play when you finally see him hanging someone else’s arms. If only you can break down but you struggle to stand despite all the damage,. We also deal those hardest moments of low self-esteem and self-confidence by the grief of losing the part of the heart that we thought we would have someday. It’s humorous to say you’re trying to leave someone who was never yours, but it’s only funny if you’re not in the right position.
There is no blueprint, no right phrase, no exact date or time to know when a girl should have left already and say she’s fine. We can’t force ourselves to forget the emotions we experience in the past, even if we have forgiven for how many times.
The only one reason we’re moving on is because we don’t wanna to get trapped in that position of still loving in silence and fear because of someone who didn’t reciprocate our feelings that our life based on.
We’re moving on because our heart is still believed of loving someone deserve our warmth.
We may not find the safe way or a better term than moving on. If you were that girl whose experienced this sore process of moving on. Greeting, heads up you are getting there, you’ll hold your head high proudly and say you’re better than before.